We live in a world that assumes that the quality of a decision is directly related to the time and effort that went into making it.*
For a while now, I have lived by a simple life policy: try everything twice. Once for the experience, and the second time to see if you like it or not.** Why? Because I don’t think ‘first impressions’ are an accurate representation of what someone or something or some experience is like.
And how can they be? How can we let a few moments create a permanent baseline from which all future interactions stem?
First impressions, with very little time and effort force us to make a very big decision: the decision of whether I like you or not. And how can the answer to such a complex question possibly result in a quality decision?
As individuals, I think we give too much weight to the initial interactions that we have. I believe it is important to strive in ‘updating’ our baselines. Our first impressions are generated by our experiences and our environment, which means that we can change our first impressions by changing the experiences that compromise those impressions.*
And this is why we should strive for new experiences, new exposures and new adventures. And perhaps during our quest for new impressions we will come to appreciate our beautifully rich world.
And then perhaps we will be ready to start the conversation on why we need to need people who are different from us… and that different isn’t such a bad thing.
My inspiration to synthesize this piece came from Malcolm Gladwell’s Blink, and the Ted Radio Hour Podcast on Beyond Tolerance.
*Quote from Blink
**Life advice from Aaron Wesie. Thank you; your words have changed my world.